Thursday, June 12, 2014
Deeper than the core of the Earth
By Sean Aaron Cruz
The abduction of my four children
Blew a hole in me
More than 18 years wide
Deeper than the core
Of the Earth
Pain measured in light years
Blew holes in my children also
Aaron died from the shock
From “Undetermined Causes”
In MormonLand Utah
All this because I disagreed
With some Mormons
Friday, March 21, 2014
By Sean Aaron Cruz
March 21, 2014 (Aaron’s birthday)
This photo of my late son Aaron has always had a special hold on me. Every time I look at it, ever since I took this photo, the word “trust” comes to my mind, and I think about how this beautiful boy had every reason in the world to trust those around him, family and friends, and the people his parents allowed into his life. He is looking at me. I am looking at him. He is looking back at me. We are One Together.
Aaron had every reason to believe that his future and those of his brother and two sisters were secure; secure in the sense that love in our family was unconditional and permanent (“I love you to infinity”, we often said to each other). He knew he was loved, that he was a priority in his parents’ lives, as were each of his siblings, and in this love was the foundation of his confidence, the trust so clear in his eyes. He is looking at me. I am looking at him. He is looking back at me. We are One Together.
There came a time, however, when his parent’s priorities changed, after his mother became involved in Mormonism, like falling into a deep chasm full of crazy-ass ideas, which led to the breakup of his family, and now there were a different sort of people allowed into his life, True Believers with smiling faces and religious agendas, home-baked cookies and Books of Mormon, people with status and impressive church titles in his mother’s new world, and the foundation he had grown up on had changed, had vanished utterly; love was now conditional….
I never got on with his mother’s new Mormon friends, not while we were still married, and never after. They looked at me and the word “Mexican” would explode in their brains, along with all their stereotypical imagery. You could see it in their eyes, their demeanor, their assumptions. I had seen that look many times before, growing up in California, where one’s Mexican-ness was always an issue one way or another, and these Mormons didn’t like race-mixing much either, so the term “half-breed” was knocking around in their heads also when they looked at me. There was that part of it.
The Mormons now intruding into our family saw me as a threat to the whiteness with which they were now enveloping my children, and in my personal religious views (more agnostic than anything else) they saw a cause for direct action. They were fighting a religious war personally directed by God Himself (to Whom they had Exclusive Direct Access right there in Salt Lake City) against people who don’t see things the same way. Seriously crazy, bug-eyed religious fervor, a group of people bent enough to plot the disappearance of four children on a school day and to conceal them in the mountains east of Ogden, Utah. Mormons with titles: Bishop, Counselor, Relief Society President were now speaking directly to my children, from their positions of “trust”, reeking with conditional love….
First came a press of Mormon “counselors” who put a lot of hours into trying to convince me to get with their program, and after that campaign failed, after I rejected their last arguments, the same group of ideologues convinced my children’s mother to file for divorce, provided a top Mormon lawyer, and a 15-year marriage came to an end in a matter of weeks, our family itself now conditional….
My ex’s Mormon friends decided to separate my children from me as a punishment, a consequence of my “apostasy”, although I had never believed the LDS dogma, had agreed to join their church only because I had made a deal with my wife, made after years of fruitlessly attempting to persuade her to stop smoking while she equally without success pressured me to join up (“You quit smoking, I’ll join your church,” I had finally said). This was/is by far the worst deal I ever made in my life, this one here, and if only I had simply gone back on my word, things would have turned out differently. The point is, leaving the LDS church can have negative consequences….
Aaron and his siblings vanished from Oregon on February 12, 1996, now isolated in remote Mormon enclaves, breaking our physical connections, and the Mormons now in control of their lives worked hard to destroy every emotional connection my children and I had shared. It was a deliberate, structured campaign that included introducing Aaron to Prozac, Ritalin, Zoloft, a long list of other such drugs, and Oxycontin, the gateway to the Mormon-infused opiate addiction that wrecked his chances of success in high school and gave these Mormons an excuse to blame him for his troubles, for not fitting in.
Within a year of arriving in his Utah concealment, Aaron’s despair was so intense that he began cutting himself with a knife. Years later, I saw the scars as he lay there on his Utah deathbed, long, overlapping, crisscrossing scars on both his upper arms. I had no idea a knife’s sharp edge could make a scar so wide, these marks of conditional love laid out on my beautiful son, scars on top of scars, each a remnant of the Big Bang in his shrunken universe, where Trust had become a distant, red-shifted blur, falling away hopelessly into amorphous gas and dust….
Aaron’s siblings succumbed to the pressure, joined up with his mother’s church, became fully immersed in Mormonism, made friends of their own, fell in and out of love with other Mormons, and this is where they remain today, surrounded by Mormons infused with all of the conditional love the Mormon Universe has to offer, love that would be withdrawn in a heartbeat should they ever reach out to me.
I have boxes of photographs of my children, of Aaron, of Natalia, of Tyler, of Allie, with that same look of Trust and Unconditional Love in their eyes. They are looking at me. I am looking at them. They are looking back at me, and we are One Together.
There is nothing the Mormons can do to change that.
--Portland, Oregon, March 21, 2014
Saturday, November 23, 2013
By Sean Aaron Cruz
The movie 12 Years a Slave shocked me a bunch, but not for the reasons one might expect.
What shocked me the most was not the bloody, detailed depiction of the barbarism and cruelty of America’s Slave Era, because those facts are all well known, but in the more subtle reaches: the forced separation of families, the scenes of Scripture-quoting monsters in everyday life justifying their crimes against humanity, and in the other parallels and contrasts I could see between Solomon Northrup’s experiences and my own as the father of four kidnapped children whose abduction began some 18 years ago and continues beyond today, and in the attitudes we both encountered along the way.
For me personally, Solomon Northrup’s story was more about the present than it was about the past, more about the pain of indifference than about the pain of the lash.
I went into the theater thinking about the horrors of slavery, but early on the movie put me on a different course of thought: knowing first the suffering that lay ahead for the Northrup family, the father losing his wife and children, and the children suffering the sudden, mysterious loss of their father, and then during the slave market scene, in the attitudes the slave Patsy encountered when she was sold separately from her two children, never to see them again.
My children and I were abruptly parted on February 12, 1996, when they disappeared from Oregon in a kidnapping/shunning organized by Mormon church members in Oregon, Washington and Utah, an abduction also intended to last forever.
My mom never saw her grandchildren again, died four years into the kidnapping, an extension of the shunning, how they disappeared from Grandma’s life, Mormons in control, the indifference I encountered….
Three different forms of abduction between us, I was thinking, sharing much in common: Each was organized. There was planning and logistics and a larger social structure that supported the crimes. Beyond their reckless disregard for life and liberty, there was the kidnappers’ desire to do actual harm to a person they did not personally know. The kidnappers’ actions resulted from their respective religion- or race-based hatreds, and with which they intruded into their victims’ lives.
My first thought was that I would rather have been kidnapped into slavery than for my children to be the kidnappees, that I would be beaten and chained in a box if it meant my children would remain safe in their home, and that at least Solomon Northrup knew that no one was tricking and tormenting his children during the captivity, deliberately destroying every emotional as well as physical link between them and forcing his children into complicity in the kidnapping. And none of his children died during the course of his ordeal. It could be worse, I thought, than this. I would take those beatings, and 12 years of separation is much better than 18.
In the slave market scene, a slave trader told Patsey in not so many words that she would forget about these children sooner or later, so she ought to move on and focus on her new life with the new master, and I found myself saying out loud to no one in particular, “That’s what they expected me to do, too.”
I was referring to the attitudes I have encountered. People have been telling me this ever since the beginning of the abduction, that I ought to “move on” or “accept this”, in one way or another, and my children’s kidnappers were all of this mind also, believing that they could get away with their crimes if I did move on, and for so long as they could continue to maintain control over my children’s lives, which they do even as adults.
The larger society was indifferent to all of these abductions as they were taking place. Years went by before Solomon found a person willing to get out of his comfort level and take an action that would lead to resolution and reunification, if not justice. It was not wishing or hoping or praying or pissing up a rope that brought the Northrup kidnapping to an end, but a person taking action.
In all of the 18 years of the Cruz kidnapping, I only encountered one such person, a retired police officer named John Bissell, who saw the situation for what it was and did everything he could to help.
But I don’t believe that anyone in the movie’s audiences would expect Solomon to ever do this, to move on or accept these injustices, a contrast between our experiences that arises from people’s attitudes entirely, although we do know that Solomon was in fact reunited with his children. No one knows, however, if the Cruz abduction/shunning will ever come to an end, if the Mormons will ever release my children to have contact with their father again, he who dared to criticize LDS doctrine in his own home….
Scripture-thumpers dominate both of our stories. Sunday worshippers committed the crimes against the Northrup and Cruz families, pious slavers and prayerful shunners, each reading from their Good Books the lines that made fit their crimes. Woe be to those who disagree with The Teachings that justify our respective Peculiar Institutions; punishments of Biblical proportions resulting, they intone in their Psalm-singing and Tabernacle Choirs….
18 years of painful separation, so far, 18 years a kidnapping, and a whole church to keep it that way….
12 Years a Slave – 18 Years a Kidnapping, pt 2.
Our stories also have in common the heartlessness of the abrupt break in communications between parent and child that the kidnappers impose. Solomon and Patsey had no way to contact their children as years went by, and my children’s Scripture-quoting kidnappers were able to cut off every means of communication I was ever able to establish between us as I fought through four jurisdictions in three states.
Monday, April 15, 2013
Access to Justice Denied:
Parental, Family and
Organized Child Abduction in
By Sean Aaron Cruz
Testimony in support of House Bill 2014, sponsored by State Representatives Alissa Keny-Guyer, Brent Barton, Chris Garrett, and Wayne Krieger
“Please tell Sean that I also wish him the best. I have also followed his career and believe his personal experience has given him the wisdom and the moral authority necessary to make a real difference in making
safer for our children.” –Hon. Judge James L. Fun,
Circuit Court, Washington County January 24,
Access to Justice Denied: Parental, Family and
Organized Child Abduction in
’s Custodial Interference I and II
A. The four statutory barriers to justice
1. “A person” exceptions
2. The definition of “protracted”
3. “…a substantial risk of illness or physical injury”
4. A crime in progress
II. Overview of access to justice in
A. The Oregon State Bar
B. The Oregon Judicial Department
Police Missing Children Clearinghouse Oregon State
IV. The roots of Senate Bill 1041 Aaron’s Law (2005)
A. The 1996 abduction of Aaron Cruz and his siblings
B. Legislative history of Aaron’s Law
1. Reporting the crime to the Legislative Assembly
2. Take Root – Adults who were abducted as children speak
3. The 2004 Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions
a. No numbers
b. A broad lack of awareness
c. Some parents use their children as weapons
d. Long-lasting trauma, injury and damage
e. Damage similar to sex crimes against the child
4. “Burning Issues in Access to Justice”
5. Aaron’s Law in statute: ORS 30.868
V. The principles of Aaron’s Law
A. Victims in control, not The System
B. Who you serve and 142 reasons why
C. Domestic violence exception
D. Counseling for resolution and deterrence
E. The child victim becomes an adult
F. Aaron’s Law and child trafficking
VI. Case Study: Aaron’s Law and the Kyron Horman abduction
A. “There is no case like this.”
B. Meeting the criteria
“Your children will find you some day (Don’t worry be happy)”
Interference I and II statutes Oregon
Four significant barriers to access to justice and to prevention and resolution of child abduction cases lie in the statutes themselves and in how Oregon law enforcement agencies and the Family and Criminal Law systems interpret the language.
A. Four statutory barriers to justice
1. “A person” exceptions: The statutes make no exceptions for the other parent, family members or hangers-on, members of a church congregation enforcing a shunning or any other organized group of persons acting with criminal intent. In actual practice, however, when a parent is involved in the abduction, law enforcement and the Family Law and Criminal Law systems appear to follow a policy of ignoring the other persons who have violated the statute. This highly selective enforcement of the Custodial Interference statutes contributes to the incidence of child abductions. Since it is so unlikely that nonparental persons will be held accountable for their crimes, the statute has little deterrent value, hence the high incidence of parental and family abductions.
HB 2014 should result in an understanding of how and why decisions to make exceptions to the statute are made at the local level, providing the 2014 Legislative Assembly with the opportunity to consider establishing a state policy.
2. “Permanently or for a protracted period”: There appears to be no statewide policy or published local law enforcement directive regarding when the threshold of “protracted” is reached and the Custodial Interference statute is triggered. The dictionary definition of “protracted” is “prolonged.” The absence of a clear definition of “protracted” in statute makes it difficult for law enforcement to act, creating a systemic barrier to the swift resolution of these cases.
HB 2014 should result in an understanding of the range of interpretations of this statute among local law enforcement jurisdictions across
Oregon, providing the 2014 Legislative
Assembly with the opportunity to consider enacting a statewide policy regarding
this critical definition.
3. “Exposes that person to a substantial risk of illness or physical injury.” The real injuries a child victim suffers in an abduction is not recognized in current statute. Although the Legislative Assembly has adopted a policy of mental health parity in health insurance coverage, it is not clear that parity applies to the “substantial risk of illness” component of the custodial interference statutes, and the term “physical injury” explicitly fails to recognize the mental and emotional trauma victims suffer.
The 2004 Senate President’s Interim Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions reported: “…the injury a child receives, when the child has been abducted by one of the child’s parents, does not necessarily include physical injury. The injury is more in the nature of mental trauma or mental injury. Nonetheless, the injury is real and may be even more long lasting and damaging than physical injury.”
Failing to recognize the serious nature of these nonvisible injuries contributes to inaction by law enforcement and the court systems.
HB 2014 should be expected to reveal a deficiency in how abductions are prioritized by law enforcement and both the Family Law and Criminal Law systems. The report will provide the 2014 Legislative Assembly with an opportunity to establish a clear policy regarding the definition of “illness” and “injury” in respect to mental health parity.
4. “A crime in progress”: The Custodial Interference statute does not take into account the fact that abductions are “continuing” crimes. The trauma and loss that victims suffer increases over time, yet law enforcement and both the Family Law and Criminal Law systems routinely fail to treat these case as crimes in progress, which is exactly what they are.
HB 2014, coupled with the Final Report of the Parental and Family Abduction Task Force, should provide the 2014 Legislative Assembly with a better understanding of the Custodial Interference statutes and offer ideas to better protect the interests of
children and their families.
II. Overview of access to justice in Oregon
For more than sixteen years, the Oregon Legislative Assembly has considered the serious problem of public access to competent legal services in the Family Law system:
“In a final report given to the December, 1997 Legislative Assembly, the Oregon Task Force on Family Law articulated the continued unmet and acute demand for assistance dealing with pro se litigants in the court systems. At the request of the Task Force, the Legislature created the Oregon Family Law Legal Services Commission. The charge to this group was to evaluate and report on “how courthouse facilitation and unbundled legal services might enhance the delivery of family law legal services to low and middle-income Oregonians.” During the next four years the Commission gathered both qualitative and quantitative information. They held public monthly meetings, solicited written input from lawyers, litigants, experts in the field, court clerks and all interested parties before drafting the proposal and completing its final work with the recommendations found here.” --
Family Law Legal Services Commission Oregon
The majority of Oregonians represent themselves in Family Court. “
data indicates that both sides
are self-represented in approximately 49% of family law filings.” Oregon
“Oregonians now represent themselves in Family Court in 67%-86% of the cases filed. Given the huge demand for legal help in family law matters that nonprofit law firms and the private bar cannot meet, access to justice efforts the last 10 years have concentrated on the statewide availability of model family law forms and procedural assistance from courthouse facilitators. Now, budget cutbacks have led to reductions in existing court services and stalled planning efforts focused on self-representation.” – Executive Summary. Task Force on Family Law
Self-representation in Family Court is a permanent aspect, and the legal system’s response “must be actively planned.”
“While the ultimate goal in access to justice efforts is representation by attorneys, self- representation is a permanent aspect of the family court. As such, the legal system’s response to litigants without lawyers must be actively planned.” – Executive Summary. Task Force on Family Law
Budget pressures and other priorities contribute to reduced access.
“Since 2007, however, significant budget reductions precipitated by the poor economy have stalled energy and funding for both interactive forms and broader self-representation planning. Moreover, some local courts have eliminated or reduced their facilitation programs to preserve resources. Simultaneously, the court’s partners in the access to justice community have continued to struggle with the high unmet demand for family law legal services. The poor economy has placed additional stress on this challenge. In addition, given the enormous public need for family law help, concern has arisen that market-minded entrepreneurs may soon preempt access-oriented, quality-focused legal planners by selling web-based interactive
family law court forms for profit.” –Executive Summary, Task Force on Family
Most victims of parental, family and organized child abductions do not have a lawyer at the time of the kidnapping. No
advertises a practice in child abduction crimes.
There are no “model family law forms” for an abduction. Family law forms require service on the other party. In abductions, however, the other parties’ and the victim children’s location is unknown, is likely to be transient, and they may be living under assumed names.
Abductions are always sneak attacks, with planning and execution carried out in secret, and nearly always involving multiple jurisdictions, long distances, more than one perpetrator, and two or more state legal systems.
Persons participating in a parental, family or organized kidnapping will likely have intimate knowledge of the victims’ financial resources, ability to access competent legal assistance and other weaknesses prior to executing the crime.
There are many variations of legal status. The parents of the victim children may be married or unmarried, legally separated or not, divorced or not, with or without custody orders. It may be a grandparent or some other person who is the primary caregiver for the victim children and reporting the crime.
A parent whose children have been abducted is likely to be experiencing severe grief, shock, panic and depression.
HB 2014 will provide the 2014 Legislative Assembly with critical insights into how to improve access to justice “when a child is reported to law enforcement officials as missing by the parent, grandparent or legal custodian of the child” or is brought to
under similar circumstances.
Once the victim children have vanished, the victim parent, grandparent or legal custodian reports the commission of a crime to local law enforcement and then looks for competent legal advice.
Prior to the passage of Senate Bill 1041 (Aaron’s Law) in 2005, the only avenues of recourse a victim parent (or grandparent) had were either through the Family Law system or the Criminal Law system. Neither system recognizes the urgency of the situation, the emotional harm the victims are suffering, or the fact that the longer the crime continues, the more extensive and long-lasting the harm.
Neither system provides any point of control for the victims, who become victims of both the crime and of the system itself.
The Family Law and Criminal Law systems are often adversarial and have long built-into-the-process timelines, when the issue is urgent.
Although Senate Bill 1041 (2005) “Aaron’s Law” made Oregon the first state in the nation where child abduction creates a civil cause of action, no information about the law or the Parental and Family Abduction Task Force is presently available through the Oregon State Bar or Oregon State Police web sites.
There is the Yellow Pages and online referral systems, but neither resource is likely to lead to an attorney specializing in child abductions.
A. The Oregon State Bar website contains no information about parental and family abductions. There are no references to the 2004 Parental and Family Abduction Task Force or Senate Bill 1041 (2005), Aaron’s Law.
The “search” feature on the OSB website turns up no information related to
legislation on the subject.
The OSB Legal Information Topics page contains no information related to abductions in the Criminal Law or Family Law categories.
There is no link to the Oregon State Police Missing Children Clearinghouse.
Searches under “personal injury”, “civil suit” and “child abuse” provide no useful links for abduction victims.
B. The Oregon Judicial Department website contains no information about parental and family abductions. There are no references to the 2004 Parental and Family Abduction Task Force or Senate Bill 1041 (2005), Aaron’s Law.
Among the legal forms available on the website, none are related to the issue, in which the whereabouts of the abducted children and the abductors are unknown.
The terms “abduction”, “custodial interference” and “kidnapping” do not appear in the site’s listing of legal terms and definitions.
Under the heading “Family Law Topics”, there is no reference to the crime, and none of the topics link to information about abduction.
There is no link to the
Police Missing Children Clearinghouse. Oregon State
C. The Oregon State Police Missing Children Clearinghouse contains no references to the 2004 Parental and Family Abduction Task Force or Senate Bill 1041 (2005), Aaron’s Law.
“The mission of the Missing Children Clearinghouse is to receive and distribute information on missing children to local law enforcement agencies, school districts, state and federal agencies, and the public. In 1989, the
legislature mandated that OSP establish and maintain a missing children
“The goal of the Missing Children Clearinghouse is to streamline the system, serving child victims and their families by providing assistance to law enforcement agencies and the public.” – Oregon State Police website
It is rare that a missing or abducted child appears on the OSP clearinghouse website if a parent is involved in the abduction. The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) frequently posts photographs and other information about parentally abducted on its website that are not matched on the Oregon State Police website.
As of this writing, NCMEC lists seven
Oregon children as parental/family
abductions since 2007, plus Kyron Horman. The OSP site identifies only four of
these children, plus Kyron Horman.
There has been discrepancies of as many as 17 children abducted from
who were listed on the NCMEC site but not on the OSP site.
In 2012, the Beaverton Police Department issued a statement identifying more than a dozen police and governmental agencies who assisted in the recovery of a child who had been abducted and taken to
New Zealand by
his father. The Oregon State Police was not among them, and the child was never
listed as abducted on the Missing Children Clearinghouse website.
IV. The roots of Senate Bill 1041 Aaron’s Law (2005)
A. The 1996 abduction of Aaron Cruz and his siblings
Aaron Cruz and his three siblings disappeared from
Oregon on Feb 12, 1996 despite an
order for joint custody that had been in affect for five years. The number of
adult persons who took, kept and enticed the Cruz children in violation of the
order for joint custody and the Custodial Interference I and II statutes was
greater than ten and included the children’s mother, other family members, and
members of their church congregation that were unrelated to the victims. Their
motivation was to enforce a shunning against the children’s father. The intent
of the shunning was to prevent any contact of any kind between the children and
their father or members of their father’s family, permanently. The shunning
remains in effect today.
The four Cruz children were kept incommunicado and taken to a series of secret locations in
where they were pressured to choose between parents, one to love with all their
hearts, and one to despise with equal fervor. Mail sent to my children at their
mother’s last known address in Hillsboro
was forwarded to the address of a conspiring church member in Hillsboro instead of on to the children.
Abducted children are forced to adhere to whatever cover story their abductors require, are not permitted to grieve their losses, and are likely to lose access to health care during their time on the run. Abductors, acting in their own interest, will work hard to sever all emotional ties the abducted children have to the victim parent.
My children were taken on a journey through three divorces and three stepdads in three states. My fight to locate and recover my children would take me through four jurisdictions in three states, usually pro se, but never with the assistance of an attorney competent in the issue of criminal child abductions.
With a single exception, every court officer, judge, attorney, juror, witness and police officer I encountered through these four jurisdictions was white, as were all of the persons participating in the abduction, and several among them shared membership in the same church congregation enforcing the shunning.
Although the order for joint custody stated that all decisions regarding the children’s education and non-emergency medical care would be made “By Both Parents Together”, I was only able to access two after-the-fact medical reports
for Aaron from
and none for my other three children after they disappeared from Oregon in 1996.
Prior to his abduction from
Oregon, Aaron had no history of any serious
illness or injury. The first medical report for Aaron was an intake report
dated a year after his abduction began. He had been hospitalized for expressing
suicidal ideation. The report described him as severely depressed, underweight,
and noted many long scars from self-inflicted knife wounds across both of his
upper arms. The report quoted him as saying he cut himself to relieve his
The second medical report I received from
Utah about Aaron was his death certificate,
which stated that he had died from “undetermined causes.” He may have been a
suicide—there was a note—but it is also likely that he had run out of his
anti-seizure meds, suffered a seizure, fell into a coma and died.
When my three living children and I gathered around Aaron in the Intensive Care Unit in
, in April 2005, where he lay
comatose, it was the first time the five of us were together since the
abduction/shunning began in 1996. Payson,
Over the course of several days, from arriving at the hospital to Aaron’s funeral service, my three surviving children and I spent many hours together, and it appeared that we would re-establish our relationships going forward.
My son Tyler, a member of the Utah Army National Guard, invited me to see him off on his second tour to
Iraq several weeks after Aaron’s
death, and we spent five days together at .
Tyler called me from Kuwait and sent me a single email from Ramadi, and we
appeared to be well connected, but over the next few weeks all of my children’s
email addresses and phone numbers went dead, just like every other time I found
them since the abduction began. Camp
The shunning remains in effect today. Neither the Family Law or Criminal Law systems in any of four jurisdictions in three states looked at the persons engaged in the abduction, other than my former wife. After filing the initial police report, I was never interviewed by a police detective.
B. Legislative history of Aaron’s Law
1. Reporting the crime to the Legislative Assembly: During the 2001 legislative session, I met with Senator Avel Gordly in her office in the Capitol and described the abduction of my children and the failures of both the Family Law and Criminal Law systems to protect my family. She promised to work on the issue.
In the fall of 2002, Senator Gordly offered me the opportunity to serve as her legislative staff in the upcoming 2003 session.
In the 2003 session, I testified before the Senate Judiciary Committee and the
Joint Ways and
Means Public Safety Subcommittee. Senate President Peter Courtney appointed the
Senate President’s Interim Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions,
co-chaired by Senator Gordly and Senator Frank Morse.
The 2004 Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions was intended to build on the prior work of the Family Law Task Force, which had been co-chaired by William Howe
III and the Honorable Judge Maureen McKnight, and
Judge McKnight was among those appointed to the abduction panel. I testified
before the Task Force in 2004.
The Family Law Task Force had worked on strategies to reduce the incidence of divorce in
including the requirement that both parties enter into counseling before a
divorce is granted, in the event that some parties might reconsider for the
sake of the children. This idea would be incorporated into Senate Bill 1041 in
During the 2005 legislative session, I testified on the crime and in support of Senate Bill 1041 before the Senate Judiciary Committee, the Senate Rules Committee, and the
and Federal Affairs Committee. House State
Senate Bill 1041 passed the House on a unanimous vote and was signed into law by Governor Ted Kulongoski in 2005.
2. Take Root – Adults who were abducted as children speak: Take Root is an advocacy group whose membership is entirely composed of adults who were abducted by their parents when they were children. Liss Hart-Haviv, the Executive Director and founder of Take Root, was a key member of the Parental and Family Abduction Task Force.
3. The Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions (2004)
The Task Force held a series of meetings, took expert testimony, and produced a Final Report to the Senate President prior to the 2005 legislative session.
Among the Task Force’s key findings were:
a. No numbers: that no person or entity knew the number of
Oregon children suffering parental and
family abductions in any given period of time. No one tracks the cases on a
statewide basis. A parent’s report of the abduction of their child likely went
no further than the City or the County taking the police report. This is
probably still the case.
b. A broad lack of awareness: That there was a general lack of awareness among law enforcement, the courts, the bar and social service professionals, which partially explains the low priority all give to non-stranger abduction cases. This lack of awareness factors into the system’s willingness to allow the abducting parent and the parent’s associates to keep the children indefinitely, and the failure of law enforcement, the bar and court officers to understand that abductions are crimes in progress and respond accordingly.
c. Some parents use their children as weapons: That “often” parents “often” take out their anger with each other through their children, and that some “even abduct their own child.” The Task Force found “that this is extremely detrimental to the emotional and mental well being of the children, and at time may even put the life of the child in danger.” Non-parental accomplices of these crimes are even more likely to disregard the safety and wellbeing of the abducted child.
d. Long-lasting trauma, injury and damage: The real injuries an abducted child suffers is not recognized in current statute. “…the injury a child receives, when the child has been abducted by one of the child’s parents, does not necessarily include physical injury. The injury is more in the nature of mental trauma or mental injury. Nonetheless, the injury is real and may be even more long lasting and damaging than physical injury.”—Abduction Task Force
e. Damage similar to sex crimes against the child: The Task Force recommended that the 2005 Legislative Assembly increase the statute of limitations for Custodial Interference I and II offenses:
“This would mean that the statute of limitations for custodial interference would be the same as it is currently for sex offenses. Your Task Force believes that the rationale for doing this is the same for the statute of limitations on sex crimes. A child who is removed from the lawful custody of one parent by another is a victim. That child is similarly situated to many underage victims of sex crimes. The perpetrator of the crime is the child’s parent. Too often, at the time of the offense, the victim is unaware that they have been abused or that they have a right to seek redress. LC 847 would give a person, who as a child was a victim of a
parental abduction, the ability to seek prosecution when the person is an adult and better able to understand the ramifications of the abduction.” –from the Final Report
While the 2005 Legislative Assembly did not follow the Task Force’s recommendation on extending the statute of limitations, Senate Bill 1041 did address the issue, providing child victims with a window to hold the child’s abductors accountable that extends to six years after the child has attained the age of 18.
4. “Burning Issues in Access to Justice”
The 4th Family Law Conference, titled “Out of the Frying Pan: Burning Issues in Access to Justice”, sponsored by the Oregon Judicial Department and the State Family Law Advisory Committee, was held in Bend, Oregon, April 7-8, 2006.
5. Aaron's Law in statute: ORS 30.868
30.868 Civil damages for custodial interference; attorney fees. (1) Any of the following persons may bring a civil action to secure damages against any and all persons whose actions are unlawful under ORS 163.257 (1)(a):
(a) A person who is 18 years of age or older and who has been taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a); or
(b) A person whose custodial rights have been interfered with if, by reason of the interference:
(A) The person has reasonably and in good faith reported a person missing to any city, county or state police agency; or
(B) A defendant in the action has been charged with a violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a).
(2) An entry of judgment or a certified copy of a judgment against the defendant for a violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a) is prima facie evidence of liability if the plaintiff was injured by the defendant’s unlawful action under the conviction.
(3)(a) For purposes of this section, a public or private entity that provides counseling and shelter services to victims of domestic violence is not considered to have violated ORS 163.257 (1)(a) if the entity provides counseling or shelter services to a person who violates ORS 163.257 (1)(a).
(b) As used in this subsection, “victim of domestic violence” means an individual against whom domestic violence, as defined in ORS 135.230, 181.610 or 411.117, has been committed.
(4) Bringing an action under this section does not prevent the prosecution of any criminal action under ORS 163.257.
(5) A person bringing an action under this section must establish by a preponderance of the evidence that a violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a) has occurred.
(6) It is an affirmative defense to civil liability for an action under this section that the defendant reasonably and in good faith believed that the defendant’s violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a) was necessary to preserve the physical safety of:
(a) The defendant;
(b) The person who was taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a); or
(c) The parent or guardian of the person who was taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a).
(7)(a) If the person taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a) is under 18 years of age at the time an action is brought under this section, the court may:
(A) Appoint an attorney who is licensed to practice law in
Oregon to act as guardian ad litem for the
(B) Appoint one of the following persons to provide counseling services to the person:
(i) A psychiatrist.
(ii) A psychologist licensed under ORS 675.010 to 675.150.
(iii) A clinical social worker licensed under ORS 675.530.
(iv) A professional counselor or marriage and family therapist licensed under ORS 675.715.
(b) The court may assess against the parties all costs of the attorney or person providing counseling services appointed under this subsection.
(8) If an action is brought under this section by a person described under subsection (1)(b) of this section and a party shows good cause that it is appropriate to do so, the court may order the parties to obtain counseling directed toward educating the parties on the impact that the parties’ conflict has on the person taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a). The court may assess against the parties all costs of obtaining counseling ordered under this subsection.
(9) Upon prevailing in an action under this section, the plaintiff may recover:
(a) Special and general damages, including damages for emotional distress; and
(b) Punitive damages.
(10) The court may award reasonable attorney fees to the prevailing party in an action under this section.
(11)(a) Notwithstanding ORS 12.110, 12.115, 12.117 or 12.160, an action under this section must be commenced within six years after the violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a). An action under this section accruing while the person who is entitled to bring the action is under 18 years of age must be commenced not more than six years after that person attains 18 years of age.
(b) The period of limitation does not run during any time when the person taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a) is removed from this state as a result of the defendant’s actions in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a). [2005 c.841 §1; 2009 c.11 §5; 2009 c.442 §26]
V. The principles of Aaron’s Law
Child abduction, causing a child to disappear for any length of time, is child abuse. The consequences can be devastating to the child and the child’s family, with damages accruing minute by minute over months and years. The harm can extend into the next generation. Much of the damage can never be remedied. Deterrence and prevention is vital. Custodial interference statutes are ineffective. The Criminal Law and Family Law systems do not provide an appropriate response to the problem. Victims ought to be able to hold their children’s abductors accountable in civil court. Child victims ought to be able to hold their abductors accountable in civil court once the child has become an adult. No person is exempt from the law.
A. Victims in control, not the system: The Civil Suit
You are the parent of a child abducted by the other parent. You did not see this coming. You do not know where they are, where they are going, if they are using assumed names or many other important details. Your child may have medical issues. You are certain that your ex intends to keep your child from you permanently.
Now you have to convince someone—many persons in a gulag of systems and strangers—that you are not exaggerating, that your child is suffering, that this is an emergency. You must find legal help in at least two state systems.
Having reported the crime to law enforcement and facing the systemic access to justice and lack of awareness issues outlined above, the victim parent, grandparent or legal custodian either enters the Family Law system pro se, or finds an attorney willing to take the case. Family Law attorneys will tell you that they do not practice criminal law. They will work the case as a custody issue.
The Family Law system is a labyrinth of overburdened courts, bewildering forms and procedures, long timelines, requirements that make swift action impossible, and staffed by persons who lack awareness of the difference between a custody fight and a cold-blooded kidnapping.
Law enforcement response to the abduction is subject to statutory issues identified elsewhere in this report, and the fact that no charges will be filed before
prosecutors believe that they have sufficient evidence to convince a jury to reach a unanimous verdict “beyond a reasonable doubt.” The Kyron Horman abduction, now entering its third year, illustrates this point very clearly.
The Criminal Law system is also very rigid in certain respects, and the victim parent may not want to see the abducting parent go to jail, as was the case in the Cruz abduction. . In many cases, incarcerating a parent adds to the ongoing trauma suffered by the child victims.
Neither system offers good, appropriate choices for the victim family.
Filing a civil suit for damages against persons who you can locate, however, who you can prove “by a preponderance of the evidence” instead of “beyond a reasonable doubt” did in fact “take, keep or entice” your child in the course of the abduction, provides abduction victims with a range of options unavailable in either the criminal or family law systems.
Civil suits can be brought forward more quickly also, potentially shortening the time that your child is abducted, and time is of the essence in kidnappings.
With the passage of Senate Bill 1041 in 2005, Oregon became the first state in the nation where abducting a child creates a civil cause of action, the right to sue for damages to your child and your family, and the right of the abducted child to seek redress when the child becomes an adult.
B. Who you serve and 142 reasons why:
You probably do not know where your ex is concealing your child and thus cannot serve legal process papers, but you become aware that your ex has assistance in carrying out the crime, whether providing logistical, financial or planning support in taking, keeping or enticing the child.
This person or these persons can likely provide information leading to where your child is being concealed. You file suit under ORS 30.868, Aaron’s Law.
Aaron’s Law is intended to serve as a powerful deterrent to persons considering aiding in a parental, family or organized child abduction. The prospect of defending oneself against liability for “(a) Special and general damages, including damages for emotional distress; and (b) Punitive damages”, as well as attorney’s fees, would discourage many from joining in facilitating a kidnapping.
The Kyron Horman abduction illustrates the concept very plainly.
The disappearance of 8-year old Kyron Horman nearly three years ago triggered the largest search effort in
history. No criminal charges have been filed in the case, and police have
released an age-progressed image of what they think Kyron might look like
Last seen in the company of his step mom, Terri Horman, the multiple searches turned up no trace of the child. Law enforcement has named no suspects or persons of interest, officially, although those terms most certainly describe Kyron’s step mom Terri Horman and her close friend DeDe Spicher, unofficially.
Both women have stubbornly refused to account for their whereabouts during the crucial two hours on the morning of
4, 2010, when Kyron vanished from the face of the earth, as did
these two women, albeit temporarily in their cases.
With both the criminal and family law courts at a stand still, unable to move forward, Kyron’s mother Desiree Young filed a civil suit against Terri Horman, alleging that the step mom knows where Kyron is and whether he is dead or alive.
DeDe Spicher invoked the 5th Amendment 142 times during her deposition.
C. Domestic violence exception:
No “public or private entity that provides counseling and shelter services to victims of domestic violence” can be sued under Aaron’s Law, nor can parents fleeing domestic violence situations.
D. Counseling for resolution and deterrence:
Borrowing from the Abduction Task Force’s predecessor, the Family Law Task Force, Aaron’s Law authorizes the Court to order “the parties” to the civil suit into counseling directed at educating “the parties” as to the harm their conduct is causing the victim children.
This feature is intended to serve as a tool for both resolution and deterrence.
E. The child victim becomes an adult:
The Parental and Family Abduction Task Force noted the similar trauma in child abduction and child sex crime victims, recommending an increase in the statute of limitations, but no change to the criminal statute has been made. Under Aaron’s Law, however, a child victim has a six-year window to hold persons participating in the abduction accountable, beginning when the child becomes an adult.
This concept is intended to serve in the cause of justice and as an additional deterrent. It also better places the Custodial Interference I and II statutes in the context of the crime, which is a continuing crime, and the persons involved are responsible for everything that happens after the kidnapping is initiated.
F. Protecting the interest of the child:
When a civil suit is filed under Aaron’s Law, the Court is immediately authorized (encouraged) to appoint legal and mental health and other qualified professionals to see to the interests of the child, and to assess the costs to “the parties” as the Court sees appropriate.
This concept results in part from the findings of the Parental and Family Abduction Task Force. The cost assessment feature is intended to act as a further deterrent.
G. Aaron’s Law and child trafficking:
While ORS 30.868 Aaron’s Law has yet to be tested in a child sex trafficking case, it could be a very useful tool in providing resolution and as a deterrent, were it to be better understood by professionals working in that field.
VI. Case Study: The Kyron Horman abduction
“There is no case like this.”
A. “There is no case like this.”
The Kyron Horman abduction is unique in many respects. The missing child has triggered the largest search effort in the history of
Oregon, now entering its
It is also the first known instance of a filing under ORS 30.868 Aaron’s Law.
Desiree Young, Kyron’s mother, filed the civil suit on
June 1, 2012, as reported in
Kyron Horman’s is the only
Oregon abduction case that has lasted longer
in the media than a single news cycle. Most parental and family abduction cases
never make the news. The families suffer in private, and an abduction case is
isolating by its very nature.
Kyron’s disappearance attracted media attention for three reasons unique to the case:
1. He disappeared from his school, attracting attention from parents, teachers and school officials across the state and beyond. Most kidnappers will want to avoid attracting attention.
2. No one else close to Kyron was also missing.
3. Kyron’s stepfather is a police detective. When he was discovered missing, his family had instant credibility with law enforcement, and police were on it in a matter of minutes.
B. On meeting “The Criteria”:
The Kyron Horman abduction is complicated for many reasons. Obviously, law enforcement has not been able to assemble evidence sufficient to move a jury to a unanimous verdict “beyond all reasonable doubt”, which is why no criminal charges have been filed.
This obstacle in the Criminal Law system is holding back both the Family Law process and the civil suit filed under Aaron’s Law.
But most parental and family abductions do not face this obstacle, because there is no criminal proceeding under way and law enforcement is not actively looking for the abducted child(ren).
During a press conference two years ago, the Multnomah County Sheriff was asked if there were any other missing children besides Kyron out there, and the Sheriff responded “none that meet the criteria.”
Whatever “the criteria” is, it is important that both the public and the professionals whom the public relies on for justice and to protect their families understand what the criteria is, what the rules are and how to make them work better.
HB 2014 will provide the 2014 Legislative Assembly with information vital to making the Criminal Law, Family Law and Civil Law systems work better for the benefit of all
children, and for those children who are brought to Oregon under similar circumstances.
“Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” –Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina
My personal experience as the parent of abducted children is my own, but over the years since I began working on child abduction prevention legislation, several dozen
parents whose children have disappeared with the ex (and the ex’s associates)
have contacted me.
In the details of their respective family situations, they each had their own stories. Some were still married to the other parent; some had never been married; some were in the process of divorce; some long divorced. Their legal status was of every sort, and the number and ages of the victim children as varied as can be.
But in the issue of access to justice, all of the stories were the same, the same as mine, we parents of children abducted by known perpetrators.
These grieving parents had all reported the crime to law enforcement, but the police were not looking for their children. They were all in some sort of limbo—at best—with the Family Law system. Some had lawyers at different points in their story, some did not. They all reported problems in finding a lawyer willing to listen, much less help, and all while time slipped away forever.
A father whose non-custodial ex-wife had disappeared with the children in February was told by a police detective the following September that the department couldn’t act because the Custodial Interference statute had no definition of “protracted.” They couldn’t be sure it had reached that point. The children were eventually recovered from
These parents had found me through my writing posted on the web. They had gone online desperate for help, for ideas. They had learned about Aaron’s Law and had read it through, but were unable to find a lawyer in
Oregon who was familiar
with ORS 30.868.
This is why they were contacting me, after all of this had happened. And there was yet a missing child and time was of the essence, and they were clinging to threads of hope.
“Your children will find you some day (Don’t worry be happy)”
In my experience, supported in conversations with these other parents of children abducted by known perpetrators, significant barriers to recovery and in access to justice lie in people’s minds, both in those who people The System and those in the general public, all stemming from the same lack of awareness.
Moving a child during the course of a custody battle is one thing; causing the child to vanish is another. Taking, keeping or enticing a disappeared child that a person is not related to ought to be a behavior that the System especially discourages, and sharply. A person aiding and abetting the taking of that disappeared child across state lines ought to be held accountable.
But there is a tendency for people to marginalize the crime, if not exactly trivialize it. Be patient. It will be OK. People with passive personalities will counsel more patience and an optimistic attitude. Your children will find you some day. Writing off your child’s entire childhood…learn to accept it…your teenager’s entire adolescence…Keep your chin up, someday your grandchild will want to know something about you…People wonder when you will move on.
Caseworkers have big caseloads; department budgets are constrained; No one knows what “protracted” means; most Oregonians cannot afford an attorney….
We ought to know, however, what chain of events takes place when a child disappears, either from
or into Oregon . Please move HB 2014 forward. Oregon